If you are currently mulling over what your intentions should be for 2017 I have an idea that you might like.
A few years ago my new years resolutions were things that might sound familiar: "Exercise more" "Achieve this goal" "Make more money" "Be happier damn it." Then I discovered a new way to look at resolutions. I started looking at them in emotional terms. I noticed that all of those actions and outcomes that I wanted to achieve were extremely dependent on how I felt on a day-to-day basis. I was also finding that how I felt day-to-day was more important than what I accomplished and had to come first.
That's why I propose this for 2017:
When we find ways to love ourselves in however we see fit from moment to moment we start to finally get our life moving concordantly in one direction. Instead of our intentions and our actions being like two trains headed in opposite directions they start lining up more and more. From experience I can tell you that being nicer to yourself and focusing on your emotional state first will result in everything that sounds desirable. Better self-esteem, better relationships, better food choices, more energy to put towards your goals and MOST important - you just feel happier as you go throughout your day.
So you may be thinking "Cool.... how do I 'love myself'"? And the easiest answer is do whatever makes you feel more relaxed and more comfortable in your body in any given moment. It can be an action such as taking a nap, listening to music you enjoy, taking a walk in nature, meditating etc but it doesn't have to be. Some of the most helpful tools I've discovered are thought based. What complements can you offer yourself? How often can you give yourself the benefit of the doubt? How many times per day can you appreciate yourself and recognize how well you're doing?
I invite you to consider this approach and please let me know what you think! Write to me at firstname.lastname@example.org
Hope you have a wonderful New Years weekend - see you in 2017!